Yeah also uh, false rape accusations are extremely uncommon.
Something like 4% of rape accusations are false. That’s not a big enough number that we have to worry about it.
While this is pretty much bullshit, I do have to say one thing:
We need to be teaching our youth that rape is serious. Serious as in “you shouldn’t do it” and serious as in “you shouldn’t accuse it”.
I say this because I had two friends in high school who accused people of rape when that simply was not the case. One of them had made out with an old friend while she was drunk, woken up the next morning, and been uncertain of whether it had gone farther than third base after she blacked out. She didn’t remember how it started, whether she said no, or what happened. She was embarrassed. As she told more and more people the story, it snowballed from what I said above (not remembering what went down with a good friend) to being certain that he had not been drunk at all, had poured all her drinks, forced her into the bathroom and taken off her pants and raped her all night. It was very uncomfortable for everyone in that social circle because they all knew him very well and one of them had dated him previously, and felt very strongly about his character. The accusee was heartbroken and confused. Really sad.
Another friend of mine lost her virginity too young and, feeling emotionally raped, had difficulty discerning the difference between an unhappy experience and a forced experience. Her boyfriend (who she continued dating) had no idea that she had told everyone in the school he was a rapist. When he found out he too was heartbroken and nearly killed himself. Really really sad.
Rape is serious, serious, serious business. For those of us who have not experienced it, it’s easy to joke or even point fingers. For those at the end of the finger, it’s awful. Most people would never consider doing such a thing.
A couple other things.
Number Five is stupid. I woke up after a party with a strange guy to my left and my friend to my right. I was unsure whether anything had happened. I asked her and she said yes. It turned out that I had not been raped. Good thing I didn’t tell everyone.
Number Six is also stupid BUT we need to remember that a sex act takes two people. If someone gets you drunk and then sleeps with you, that is rape. If you are both drunk and willingly (though possibly stupidly) sleep together, the onus is not on the man. That’s horrible and unfair. Plus I know guys who have been the drunk ones. It’s shitty.
The problem with lists like these is that they are left to interpretation. In a culture like ours, it is likely that they will be interpreted wrongly. You can tell the people who wrote it intended for you to interpret it in a stupid way because it was drawn up on behalf of men’s rights. However. We still shouldn’t accuse people of raping us when they haven’t.
Women can rape people too. And men can falsely accuse rape.